When I had an extra ticket to a show and asked Dan to go with me….I never would have dreamt that I would marry him almost 2 years later!!
Let me back up a minute. I have never been one to dream about a big wedding. I have never wanted a big wedding. I have never even wanted to have a wedding. I have always wanted to just go off and get married. Dan knew that and he was perfectly fine with it. I think big weddings are a waste of money. No disrespect to anyone who has had a big one or wants to have a big one. It is just not for me!
Back in January. We started thinking about getting married. We went and looked at rings a few times. I found exactly what I wanted. I was very excited!! The problem was I did not want to be engaged either. Once you say you are engaged people start asking questions. I didn’t want the questions! I thought we would figure out a date and I would get the rings there!
My mom was coming for a visit at the end of February. We would tell her and Dan’s family(who live here) that we were planning on getting married!
February 25th: I was cooking dinner….
Dan: Where is your Road ID?
Me: I didn’t wear it today. I don’t know…probably in the bathroom
Dan: Put this on
It was very exciting. I just wanted to get married that weekend!! Dan said NO because my dad, bro, and SIL wouldn’t be there. We had a fun dinner telling them the story. We had a hard time picking a date but I won’t bore you with those details!!
We finally had a date!! April 18th! We told everyone this was a BIG SECRET and they were not to say a word to anyone! I started looking for places to have a lunch after our quiet ceremony. It was harder than I thought. Why are places not open for lunch on Saturday? We finally picked a peruvian place with a room to rent.
After we had finalized those plans, Dan thought we should have some sort of party. I didn’t really want to do anything. I wanted a quiet ceremony and nice lunch with just our families. We ended up compromising on a “birthday party/Dan getting into grad school party.” We rented out a room at a brew pub. We had some snacks and got cookies. (I didn’t want a cake either. Too much work. Plates, forks…) We invited local peeps and took bets on who we thought would think the party was a hoax.
It was really hard keeping the secret. Much harder than I thought it would be!!
The weekend was finally here!! Our #secretwedding was finally here.
My mom and SIL(Stevie) arrived at noon. We met Dan’s mom(Laurie) and had a bridal shower. Consisting of manis/pedis and getting tea/pastries. I joke that we had my bachelorette party afterwards at a lingerie shop with my new SIL, Annie!! The rehearsal dinner was Friday night. Everyone met who had never met. We all had dinner at the Old Spaghetti Factory.
Saturday: Wedding day! I slept at home but when I left at 7am I didn’t see Dan again until the ceremony.
7am-buy some flowers
9:00-pick up cookies
9:30-blow out with my hairdresser that was on her way to the coast!
10:30-Put on dress and a little make-up(what-what)
11:15-ceremony/pictures at the park
12:30-arrive at lunch
6:00-head over to “birthday” actually wedding party
6:30-watch people’s reactions as they walked into the party! Priceless!!
Zero Stress!! I wouldn’t have done it any other way!
It was a super fun weekend but Dan and I often used this hashtag: #letselope (isn’t that what we were doing anyway) ;) along with the countdown!!
What kind of wedding did you have or what kind of wedding do you want?